What qualities are you looking for in a partner?
If you're already in a relationship, what qualities do you value most in your partner?
Why do you think these qualities are important to you?
This has been a major one for me lately. I'm all about getting as clear as possible about not just want I WANT in partner, but what I actually NEED.
It's important to remember that no one person can make you feel any which way. It's our choice how we react to them that dictates our feelings.
That being said, what I'm working on right now is shifting my dialogue from:
"I want someone who makes me feel safe/loved/worthy"
"I feel safe/loved/worthy in his presence."
When I take time to dive deeper into the WHY I